Your parents raised you. And now they’re old, weak, and in some cases partially disabled. But in their minds and memories they are still ‘the boss of you.’ How frustrating must it be for a former CEO to need his son to help him shave? He taught you to shave, by golly. How embarrassing must it be for a one-time super mom to ask her daughter to help her on and off the toilet? She potty-trained you, for crying out loud. If you find yourself tired, frustrated and feeling stretched to the limit it may be time to fully acknowledge the dramatic change in roles that nature has forced mom and dad to accept. And you need to accept the fact that you might not be the best person for this job.
To be honest you probably lack the finesse and training of a professional caregiver when it comes to bathing. There is a bit of technique involved in bathing another human. And when it’s your own father or mother there are intimacy factors that could be embarrassing for both of you. Some things are best left to the professionals even when it’s something as seemingly simple as grooming.
Golden Age Companions are licensed, certified, trained, and insured caregivers. They are an ideal choice to fill the personal grooming needs of elderly or disabled adults. In return you will have more time to enjoy the more pleasant tasks, like listening to stories and reminiscing, sharing cookies and milk, trying to wrangle the New York Times crossword puzzle. Whatever it is you like to do with your parents it’s a good bet that coaxing them out of their clothes and into a slippery shower is not one of them.
Yes, at one time they were the boss of you but now your relationship is more like life-long friends. Do your friend a favor and arrange for a professional care provider to do what they do best–provide professional care.